When we focus on our problem, we can't see the solution, and each time we look at the problem we send out a request for a solution, which adds to the solution.

So basically, if there is something you really want, that you are trying really hard to get, every time you notice that you don't have it, you launch a new 'request' which causes you to expand, which causes Tru to move into the expansion, and in doing so your solution just moved further away because of the expansion. This is a good thing, because the solution just got better - however if all you do is notice that you don't have this thing it will keep moving away. The answer is to allow yourself to catch up with the solution rather than pushing it away.

To do this, it is necessary to take your attention away from the fact that you don't have it. I'm not going to say don't think about it because whenever you try to stop thinking about something, you invariably think about it more. The answer is to think about something else - which may not be that easy to begin with, but with practie it does get a lot easier. And to be honest, you will get to a point where you just want to feel good, and will do anything to achieve that.

Personally for me, I find when the chips are really down, a mantra works really well. My mantra is 'everything is always working out for me, and there is always a solution', over and over again if I have to. I was once homeless briefly and had to live in a hostel for three weeks. That mantra kept me sane, I absolutely refused to look at the 'reality' of my situation, I knew better things were waiting for me and that I just needed to keep my head held high and keep going. Whenever anything negative tried to get in my head, out came the mantra - over and over again if necessary. It was my first thought as soon as I woke up every morning, and the thought that rocked me to sleep at night. Remember you can only think one thing at a time, so sometimes I was literally using it as a barrier, which isn't ideal, but it stopped the negativity getting in, and if that negativity did creep up on me, the second I noticed it out came the mantra to shoo it away. And it worked, within three weeks I had found two jobs and a new place to live.

Another way to catch up with who you have expanded into is appreciation. Instead of noting what you don't have (which causes expansion and further movement away) look at all the good things you do have, or look at what you know is waiting for you. Use your imagination to see that fabulous new house, or your gorgeous new partner, or that fantastic new job! Please note though hat if by imagining where you are going, you are reminded of what you don't have, then you will be creating further expansion, so sometimes it's better to stay off the subject all together until you can look at it without feeling its lack. I also want to be clear here, causing anything to further expand is always a good thing, because when you do get it, it will be even more amazing. However sometimes its easier to allow it to manifest itself to you, and then continue to expand it once it is actually in your experience. Remember nothing is ever 'done', it is constantly expanding. A house will eventually become a home, a friend could eventually become your soulmate/partner, a job could eventually become a career - all forms of expansion.

Appreciation can be noting that the sky is a beautiful blue, that where you live is great, that you have friends, that you have a bed to sleep in, that you have a fluffy pillow to lay your head on at night, that you have food to eat, anything that will keep you in a positive frame of mind!